Having a one night stand with someone can be thrilling, exciting, dreaming, and it can also be a nightmare that will follow you for the rest of your life. I believe most hookup hunters must have their fair share of bad hookup experiences. Even now when you look back, you wish you never had them. To prevent you from the whole catastrophe, here are some tips that might be helpful:
Give feedback. Negative or positive, you have to give him some feedback. If you like his move, show him some encouragement. It can be some action or some words or sometimes, an eye contact will be more than enough. If you don't like it, you should let him know as well. You don't need to be straightforward on everything. There are plenty of ways to tell him your dislikes. For example, you can lead him to another way or you can gently tell him know that you prefer something else. Just use your imagination.
Giving and receiving, can't miss neither of them. Everyone wants to be served and wants to have a good time. In order to enjoy this journey and make sure you both enjoy it, there should be as much giving as receiving. That is to say, don't expect someone to serve you the whole process. Everyone gets equal chance to be served and serve the other. Once your partner is having fun, you will be as well. So drop your self-ego and start to care about the other.
What goes next? This is also a very important step to make the whole process enjoyable. After all, when you finished, the whole experience will be reserved in your memory. You certainly do not want this experience to be ruined by the last minute, right? Therefore, it's necessary to make an exit plan. Are you going to stay the night? Are you okay with waking up with your hookup dating partner in the morning?
If you are not okay with it, then you might tell your partner beforehand that you have something important in the next morning and you must leave tonight, otherwise you might be considered as a little bit rude and impolite to leave the minute it's over. If you want some company through out the whole night, check with your partner to see if it's okay with him.
However, there are risks if you stick around. Remember, this is only a one night stand or a casual hook up. Nothing will go on outside of the bedroom. If you stay for the night, you might give your partner the wrong impression. Cuddling can be very romantic and pleasant, but if this is only a one time thing, unnecessary attachment might not be want you want right now.
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